Category: Children

10 Tips for Navigating the Pre-School Blues

Navigating the pre-school blues is a hot ticket topic at home currently. My little one (LO) just started pre-school and it’s triggered so many emotions and catastrophic thoughts for everyone in my family. My LO has been crying at drop off every day. “It was gutting” is what I said to my husband when he asked me how it went. He’s known it too well as he’s the one who primarily drops her off. So I’m writing this post first as a mom, then second as a child therapist.

I started writing this post just as she left the house on day 10 and had yet another crying spell. I’m happy to report that by day 11 (today), she broke the crying spells (so far). My intention was to write the post on how we were managing, not how we got through it. Since today is day 1 of no crying, I’ll stick with how we’re managing.

10 Tips for navigating the pre-school blues:

  1. Visit the new school several times before start date. This wasn’t fair for my little one (LO). And I knew better. I recommend that there are frequent trips driving to the new school, taking them on a tour of the facility, meet the teachers, staff, etc. My LO was going to start on a Tuesday and she found out/saw the new place on the Friday right before (and after a dr appointment no less). Gradual exposure is the best with separation anxiety.
  2. Reading books about the transition to pre-school/kindergarten. (Disclosure: some of the links used are Amazon affiliate links where I get a small commission from purchases made from the links. Read more about my disclosure statement below*) Last year my LO started daycare and knowing it was going to be big transition from being at Nana’s everyday, we read “Llama Llama Misses Mama.” It’s such a sweet and heartwarming book. My daughter loved it and it really helped her feel validated. It also helped me understand what a child might be going through when they’re hesitant about starting school. Recently we revisited Llama Llama Misses Mama, and she responded to it in such a different way. We also added to the rotation, “Look out Kindergarten, Here I come“. This book came from my office collection. I used it with children who had such a hard time staying in daycare/school, that they were no longer attending. This book, along with gradual exposure (discussed above) really helped. Both books are great at highlighting the cool and fun things children will do at school. My LO started to draw comparisons between the characters and herself, not only when reading the books, but even when talking about.

3. Comfort or Transitional Object. A transitional object is an object that comes from the child’s home that they take with them to provide comfort, soothing and a sense of security. I had read about it when I was in college, but I saw it in action when my nephew was a baby, he was super attached to his mom’s silky nightgown. Eventually the nightgown was torn and tattered, but he still couldn’t sleep without it. So they cut it and tied it in half so he could sleep with it. When he started school, he took it with him in his backpack. It provided safety and comfort for him. Of course, he’ll deny it if asked, but that’s for another article about teenagers. There’s a wonderful article on transitional objects here. I bought the elastic hairbands (to give away as party favors) below for my daughter’s birthday before starting pre-k. She loved them. A few of her daycare friends attended the party and they all wore the bands on their wrists. Since I had a few left over, five days into pre-school and with her crying daily at drop off and during arts & crafts (she told me this when reading Llama Llama Misses Mama , by the way), I remembered about the hair bands. I gave her one and told her that she could wear the hairband on her wrist and when she’s feeling sad, she can take a look at it and remember that it’s ok to feel sad, and that mommy and papa love her, and would always come back to pick her up around 4:30pm. Because she liked it to begin with, she went for it. A few days later, she lost it and started crying. We got her another one and she was happy about it again. I’d ask her daily if she wanted to leave it at home or continue to wear it and she was always up for wearing it. Comfort objects can be anything from a sticker, a toy, blanket, fabric swatch, stuffed animal. Check with your child’s school about what they can bring with them since many only allow certain toys on certain days (for us, Fridays are “Share Days”).

A note about these hair/wrist bands, you can totally DIY it. Just buy elastic, snip two ends and tie a strong knot. Amazon has tons of elastic in different colors and prints.

4. Mantras. I really love the book below, “I can handle it” because it reinforces the idea that one can have challenging situations with strong feelings and still being able to handle it, all at the same time by first telling yourself, “I can handle it.” The book gives different examples of how to “handle it” such as healthy coping, making good decisions, and telling yourself over and over again, “I can handle it.” Come up with a positive thought about your child’s coping and say it over and over again throughout the days. Some that we used with our LO were “I’m going to make new friends,” “I’m going to learn new things,” “I love recess time,” and “I can feel sad and play with my friends at the same time.”

5. Deep breathing. Deep breathing really helps to reset and soothe our fight and flight response. On week 2, we started having her take deep breaths with one hand on her heart and one on her belly. We’ve watched the videos below hundreds of times on breathing and they’ve totally helped us in remembering to breathe and how to do it.


6. Understanding Anxiety. The “Just Breathe” video above talks a little bit about the brain and the amygdala driving our big emotions. When my LO is feeling scared or sad, I ask her where in her body does she feel it. In that moment, she stops and checks in with her body to see. She usually says she feels in her heart, or her forehead. Then we come up with a plan for how to soothe. The book below is my favorite book on Anxiety. I share it with both children and adults.

7. Praise. Praise is a win-win skill where the parent praises a specific positive behavior in a child. It lets the child know that the parent is paying attention, it makes them feel good about themselves for doing something well, and the parent feels good about catching their child do something well. In this situation, praise all efforts at being brave even when they’re sad or scared. Praise them for staying at school even when they were feeling scared. Praise them for calming down shortly after mom and dad left (by the way, LO’s teacher said she only cried for about 2 minutes after drop off them starting playing with the other children). Praise them for playing well with the other children. You might need to speak with the teacher to find out what their day was like and any positive highlights that you can help.

8. TLC and QT. Lots of tender, love & care, along with quality time really helped in the days before she finally acclimated well without crying. In retrospect, we should have done it sooner, because it will always help with the transition from school to home anyway, but also with relationship enhancement. For us, we worked on a Halloween arts and crafts project and she had such a blast. I really think that helped make the difference. My husband would also take her to get a small treat like juice or frozen yogurt after school where they only talked about the day. This has been so essential for our LO because she really does enjoy quality time with us. It’s definitely her love language. She asks us to carry and cuddle her more these days and we happily comply.

9. Compassion. Having compassion for your child and you as parents is going to save the day, everyday! Your little one is starting something new and that can be scary! Think of when you started a new school, job, or situation. I often think of my immigrant mom who left her country (El Salvador) for the U.S. with no luggage or anything. She didn’t know the language, the customs, or if things would work out for her. Although in reality, you’re you’re not shipping your little one to another country, for your child, it might actually feel like it. New people, schedules, rules, toys, etc. Compassion for your little can sound like, “I know starting school is hard;” “You really miss your daycare friends and teacher;” “I know you love staying at home with (insert caregiver). You’re having a difficult time with this.” We started having play dates with my LO’s daycare friends and they all talk about how “big kid school” is treating them.

10. Self-care. This one’s for you brave, tired, unsure, scared and hopeful parent! I wrote this blog titled, “How to be a better parent by being self(care)ish” where I discuss how nourishing yourself first as a parent will help you deal with the trials and tribulations of parenthood (and all the other roles you’re navigating too). The truth is that as a parent you give so much of yourself and sometimes it leaves nothing else for you, leaving you depleted and vulnerable to difficult emotions. Having a good supply of gas in your tank will help you have compassion, feel good about TLC and quality time with your LO, and might even help you come up with brilliant ideas to help your LO navigate the pre-school blues. You know your child the best and you are the single most important person in his/her life. And because of that, you both deserve to have you well.

Navigating any big change with your LOs is hard. Remember that your little one and you are doing the best you can in this moment with the tools you currently have. Do you need more tools? Feel free to reach out to me to set up a consultation at (323) 351-1741. I provide consultations that are not necessarily therapy, but more like brainstorming, skill coaching, and/or conversation about what’s been helpful for a particular parenting issue you’re dealing with.

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*Disclosure: These recommendations are not meant to replace your own professional therapy. Please seek professional mental health services to further understand your problems, symptoms, and situation.

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10 Important Parenting Tips to Help Children Comply

Parenting is both hard and rewarding at the same time. The hardest parts are when our children aren’t complying, we don’t know why and nothing we’ve tried works. In my last article, I identified different reasons children might not comply. As promised, I put together this list of the top 10 important parenting survival tips that I reference all the time and share with my clients. They’ve truly helped my clients and I navigate parenthood.

  1. Connection. I decided to put connection at the top of the list because it’s the most important in nurturing the relationship with our children and preventing behavior problems. We humans evolved because of our social bonds in our clans, tribes, and households. A strong connection can be considered the foundation of well-built home, designed to weather the toughest of storms and natural disasters. Children need to a good foundation mixed with equal part of of warmth, hugs, love, laughter, safety, structure, and discipline. This means, plenty of hugs, play, conversations, understanding, and giving our children our undivided attention. In PCIT, parents are instructed to spend 5 full minutes a day (more if available) engaging in Special Play Time where the focus is on engaging in child directed play. This means you following their lead even if it means them calling a blue truck a pink dinosaur. No criticism, no teaching, no correcting. This helps children feel special and loved. Connection earns us money in the bank, making it easier for them to comply down the road, while also rewarding us parents with the much needed bonding we need from them too.
  2. Ask yourself, “what are they trying to tell me?” I read a parenting article the other day that encouraged parents to ask their children, “What are you trying to tell me right now?” during a tantrum. Children are determined to get their caregiver’s attention in positive or negative ways. It’ll all depend on which type of behavior has been reinforced. My 3 year old both noticed that I was more receptive to giving her attention during cooking if she shouted, “Ouchie, I fell!” than “Mommy, come play with me.” When she doesn’t comply with playtime clean up, she’s telling me that she doesn’t want special play time to end. Some children have sensory issues with certain clothing textures, water, tastes (like the ones who genetically, taste soap when they eat cilantro!).
  3. Addressing vulnerabilities is crucial to help regulate emotions for everyone, regardless of age. Mood is a big contributor to non-compliance in children, and stress level for the parent. When we’re hungry, tired, sleep deprived, and sick we’ll be irritable at best, and suffering at worse. One of my favorite Emotion Regulation Skills has the PLEASE acronym. They are both basic and live saving in parenting (and life in general). It stands for:
    • Physical illness – treat physical illness for both child and parent. When we feel better, we act better. Take prescribed medications. Get medical check ups for yourself and your child. You might be seeing that irritability and/or non-compliance can be related to a medical issue (i.e. hearing issues, developmental delays, ear infections, low energy).
    • Lead with healthy behaviors (P and L were originally under physical illnessness). Modeling to children healthy behaviors is also important. They will take deep breaths when they’re upset if they see you do it. Likewise, seeing you follow rules and respond in a calm way, will show them what you expect of them.
    • Eating – balanced meals is important for you as well as your children. Poor eating habits can bring on tummy-aches and general unhappiness. Hangry is the very real combo of being hungry and angry. Snickers displays this concept where once the monster has it’s snack, they turn back into a human. When we don’t eat well, we may not have the energy to engage or even comply. Full disclosure: I’ve apologized several times for my behavior when hangry too.
    • Avoid mood altering substances – in children this might be sugar, certain foods, electronic devices, anything that might overstimulate the child. This reminds me of an episode on Orange is the New Black when there is a flashback to Pensatucky when she is given soda before a behavioral assessment. Studies have also shown the impact of too much screen time close to bedtime, impacting sleep cycles.
    • Sleep is of major contributor to challenges with mood for children and adults, alike. Think back to your or your child’s most sleep deprived moments and what the behavior was like. My daughter goes from goofy, to delirious, to combative as the evening progresses. On a day when I’ve gotten enough sleep and a good meal, I might have the reserve to deal with it. When I’m tired too, it sounds like World War III in my house.
    • Exercise helps produce the feel-good chemicals in our brain. It also helps to tire us out so that we sleep better. For children with a surplus of energy, exercise will be crucial. Bonus: engage them in a team sport and there are so many benefits such as, following rules, sportsmanship, and structure.
  4. Specific Praise. Catch them while they’re complying throughout the day and praise the specific positive behavior. It lets them know that you’re paying attention, it helps you describe the specific positive behavior you like and want to continue seeing in them. Examples include, “thank you for listening right away”; “Thank you for helping me. You’re such a good helper.”; “Thank you for using gentle hands”; “I really like how you get in your carseat right away”; “Nice job eating all your fruit. You’re so healthy!”; “Great job sharing your toys. You’re such a good friend.” Labeled praise is a win-win skill. The parent feels good about praising the good and the child’s self esteem goes up knowing that they did something well.
  5. Label and Validate Emotions.  The best way for children to understand what they’re feeling is for those around them to help them label their emotions. Otherwise, they grow up not knowing what they’re feeling and why. Help your children label their emotions by stating the obvious (to us), “You’re really mad that playtime is over,” “You’re really angry that you can’t have candy at 8pm,” or “You’re sad that mommy has to leave for work.” This shows your child that 1) you are paying attention, 2) you understand their emotion, 3) their emotion makes sense given the situation. Sometimes this is all that’s needed for them to feel heard and paradoxically, can calm them down since they won’t need to keep crying or engaging in the behavior to show you. Secret: This works for adults too!  If you notice that your child might be responding to a flashback or bad memory, you can validate and say, “you’re having memories of the [insert scary event] and you’re feeling scared. You’re safe right now.” (This also works for adults)
  6. Give specific instructions. Here it’s important to break tasks down for children and tell them exactly what you want to see them do. These are statements, not questions. For example, instead of “can you go get ready?” say, “please go put your shoes on.” You’re probably shaking your head because your first instruction is very calm, but when you get to the 7th time repeating it you’re reached the edge of your patience. Oh wait, is that just me? See the next strategy for this.
  7. Use When/Then Statements. This skill helps children know what you will hold them to. Catch here is that you need to be consistent so they can learn to know what to expect from you each time you say it. Examples can be: “When you finish the food on your plate, then you can have dessert;” “When you get all 4 stickers on your chart, then you can use the iPad for 10 minutes;” “When you get in the carseat, then I can put your favorite song on (Moana’s “You’re Welcome” – if you must know what ours is);” “When you get in the shower, then I can bring you the bath toys;” “When you finish your chores, then I’ll give you the wifi password (a favorite for the teens).
  8. Pick your battles/Ignore – ignore what’s ignorable such as whining, making silly voices, sighs, annoying behaviors that aren’t too serious or involve safety issues.
  9. “Own your stuff.” Here we have an opportunity to reflect and ask ourselves, “What am I doing that contributes to my child’s behavior?” I’ll raise my hand and share first. Sometimes I respond to a text or two (or 5) during dinner time and my attention drifts away from my daughter. Dinner time is our first reunion from being at work all day. To get my attention, she does something she’s not supposed to at the dinner table. I get it. She’s looking for ways of getting my attention: connection. That’s my bad. When I remember, I put my phone face down and turn the ringer off. I’ve started adding a bath time alarm too so that it doesn’t get too late and it keeps me on track, in terms of schedule.
  10. Self-care is incredibly important for parents. When we take care of ourselves, it allows us to be there for others like our children. It’s the idea taken from the pre-flight safety tips where they tell you to “put your own oxygen mask on, before helping others.” We need to be ok if we want our kids to be ok. If you’re wondering how a bubble bath is going to solve your child’s behavior problem, it won’t. However, it will give you moments of relaxation so that you can develop clarity and reflection so that you can reduce your own vulnerabilities. Self- care here can mean, 1) a long bathroom break, 2) having your A.M. coffee still warm and in silence, 3) saying NO to overcommitting, 4) staying an extra few minutes in bed, 5) cashing in on all those folks who offered to babysit for you, 6) getting with your “tribe” or “your people” who get it and will let you vent (bonus, if they will also babysit for you). Stay tuned for a future post on Self-Care.

Lastly, remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can in this moment. This is another favorite ism of mine that I tell all my clients. Parenting is a lot of work. Some days, moments, children, situations are harder than others. Reflect on this moment so that you can do better in the next. Like Oprah says, “when you know better, you do better.” Reflection helps us do better. So go and do anything that helps you reflect. I absolutely love working with parents. I offer parenting consultations on an as needed basis.

Resources:

If you feel triggered by this article and are in need of some immediate resources, I urge you to contact:

  • 911 or go to your nearest ER if you feel you a danger to yourself or others
  • 211 – in LA County it’s the social service directory for grief groups, therapy resources, housing, and more. It’s also online, google, “211”
  • LA County Access hotline for a psychiatric evaluation wherever you are located. The ACCESS/HOTLINE Phone number is : 1-800-854-7771. ACCESS operates 24 hours/day, 7 days/week as the entry point for mental health services in Los Angeles County.
  • Email me at info@sofiamendozalcsw.com if you’d like to inquire about an appointment with me in the Long Beach area. I can also help connect you to other therapists if you live elsewhere.
  • If you would like to access your insurance mental health benefits, there should be a Member Phone number on the back of your insurance card. Ask them for their list of approved therapists. They can also email it to you, making it easy to cross reference the list on www.psychologytoday.com where you can check their profiles out.

Thank you for reading. Follow me on Instagram under @mendingrootstherapy to get updates about new articles, quotes and other musings on mental health.

Therapy Models referenced:

DBT – Dialectical Behavior Therapy

PCIT – Parent-Child Interaction Therapy

CBT – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

TFCBT – Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

 

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“I’m not bad…”

Ever want to shout out at a naughty child, “Stop it, you’re being BAD?” You are definitely not alone. Parenting, caregiving, teaching children requires lots of patience and skill especially when they are not complying.

Growing up, I knew a lot of kids who heard this from teachers, siblings, and well-meaning neighbors. These kids didn’t listen, were very hyperactive, and above all, mischievous. I didn’t like some of them. I was friends with some. Later, I would come to find out that kids aren’t bad, they just engage in behaviors that are either not expected, liked, or accepted for the situation.

Which is why when one of my daughter’s first words were, “bad! bad!” I cringed and as I was trying to tolerate the shame of having my daughter say this (and with conviction), I of course, yelled at my husband. You see, in her first year of life, my husband would constantly tell our chihuahua, Millie that she was “bad! bad!” when she would bark at strangers, family members, the baby, nothing, or a knock on tv (she’s just protective!). My family would laugh at me when I would say, “Millie’s not bad, she just makes poor choices.” Yes, these are the conversations in the home of a therapist. My point was that Millie was responding to her internal alarm, her “flight and fight” response telling her to protect us and the home. And while she has a lot to learn about life and real and perceived danger, we as her parents need to train her to do better, instead of making her feel as though she’s bad. Every time I hear someone say “bad person” it’s like nails on a chalkboard for me. Mainly because I know how much people suffer when they believe it about themselves.

In my work, the “I’m a bad person” core belief comes up quite frequently. A lot of people believe they are inherently BAD. When we examine this belief and its history on their life, we find that the message (or “seed” as I like to refer to it as), “You’re bad” was planted back in childhood. It might have been an innocent, non-ill intentioned experience, and it kept being reinforced through time and other experiences. I tell my clients that these reinforced experiences are like oxygen, water and sunlight… all the things that a core belief and “tree” needs to grow and thrive. Then people start to believe the message and can develop assumptions about themselves and act accordingly. Two extremes can be: 1) continue to act that belief out, ex: “Since I’m bad and everyone knows it, I will continue to do bad things.” and/or ; 2) do everything possible to combat this belief or “inherent trait”, ex: “I have to go above and beyond to do nice things so that no one catches on and sees that I’m actually really a bad person.” Such behaviors can cause people to suffer and ultimately, behave in ways that are opposite to their values or goals.

Now that my daughter is 3.5 years old, I see her personality flourishing, how she developmentally appropriately pushes boundaries (and bedtime, and more snacks, or juice after brushing teeth, or stalling to clean up toys and on and on), and asserts her independence (no, I do it!),  and how she is also starting to hold on to certain beliefs about herself and even others, like Millie = bad. It won’t be before long that an experience plants a seed about how her behavior is a direct reflection of something or someone she inherently is, even though it really isn’t.

And so this post is for her, for me, for you and your children. Let this image be a reminder that kids aren’t bad, they’re just:

Hungry. Tired. Bored. Overly Stimulated. Super excited. Frustrated. Delirious. Loopy. Sad. Having bad memories (trauma reactions look a lot like hyperactivity in kids – more on this in a later post). Legitimately not listening to you or the directions.

Sure it frustrates the hell out of us parents or caregivers (or aunts, teachers, sitters, cousins, grandparents), mainly because we’re:

Hungry. Tired. Bored. Overly Stimulated. Super excited. Frustrated. Delirious. Loopy. Sad. Having bad memories (trauma reactions look a lot like irritability in adults – more on this in a later post). Legitimately not listening to them or the directions they have for us.

And that doesn’t make us bad either.

Hey, parenting, teaching, caregiving – it’s all hard. Every day is a whole new ballgame. Be kind to yourself and those kiddos.

Stay tuned for the next post focusing on what you can do to help with some of these behaviors.

Resources:

If you feel triggered by this article and are in need of some immediate resources, I urge you to contact:

  • 911 or go to your nearest ER if you feel you a danger to yourself or others
  • 211 – in LA County it’s the social service directory for grief groups, therapy resources, housing, and more. It’s also online, google, “211”
  • LA County Access hotline for a psychiatric evaluation wherever you are located. The ACCESS/HOTLINE Phone number is : 1-800-854-7771. ACCESS operates 24 hours/day, 7 days/week as the entry point for mental health services in Los Angeles County.
  • Email me at info@sofiamendozalcsw.com if you’d like to inquire about an appointment with me in the Long Beach area. I can also help connect you to other therapists if you live elsewhere.
  • If you would like to access your insurance mental health benefits, there should be a Member Phone number on the back of your insurance card. Ask them for their list of approved therapists. They can also email it to you, making it easy to cross reference the list on www.psychologytoday.com where you can check their profiles out.

Thank you for reading. Follow me on Instagram under @mendingrootstherapy to get updates about new articles, quotes and other musings on mental health.

 

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When a Parent or Loved One Goes to Jail

How do I tell the children their parent or loved one went to jail? 

Book Review: The Night Dad Went to Jail by Melissa Higgins

Dad went to jail

The Night Dad Went to Jail is a children's book has been on my radar to check out for a long time since I come across several children and teens whose parent went to jail. Having a parent or loved one go to jail can be extremely traumatic and jarring for most children. It's a big transition that can come with confusion, shame, fear, worry and sadness. This book does a really nice job of normalizing the feelings that children have when faced with this difficult situation. I like that it also folds in statistics about parents in jail/prison and recommendations for the person reading the book to the child.

Another positive aspect of the book is that it incorporates interactions with police, social workers, therapists, and a caregiver -- all supporting the child. Additionally, the book is written in the first person, the eyes of this young bunny. It very much reads like a narrative that is often used in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy (TFCBT) -- an exposure based trauma treatment where children and teens draw or write out the details of their trauma and work with their therapist to modify negative thoughts or beliefs about the event, themselves or their future. As a certified TFCBT therapist, it was heartwarming to read this book which provides great information, recommendations, and above all, providing normalization for kiddos' and their parents' reactions in the face of such a challenging situation.

What to say: Depending on the child's age and their level of understanding, you will have to craft out an explanation in their own language or phrasing. Most children know about cause and effect, so keeping it as simple without too many details of the actual crime could suffice in the beginning. A sample explanation can be: "Your mom or dad (or the name of the loved one) may have broken the law (or rules) and the police are asking him/her questions. Sometimes these things take a while -- maybe some days, maybe months. If mom/dad/loved one broke a rule/law, we might not see them for a while. Depending on the developmental stage the child is in, sometimes they believe that they are at fault or to blame. Make sure to reassure the child that adults are responsible for their own behavior. You can also distinguish the behavior from the character of the person if necessary. Such as, "Mom/dad/loved one is not a bad person, he/she broke a rule/law. He/she loves you very much and misses you too." Encourage them to talk with you about their fears, concerns, or any thoughts and feelings they might be having. Above all, be willing and open to listening to them and validate their feelings (even if their thoughts might be distorted). Employ the "yes, and" communication rule in your vocabulary to help them see the validity of their emotions, and how sometimes they can be clouded by negative thoughts. An example can be, "I know that you're sad and feeling guilty about this being your fault, and mom/dad/loved one is an adult and all adults are responsible for their own behavior."

Therapist tip: Sometimes children have a hard time opening up about a certain situation, feelings, or distressing topic. It can help to have a story read, told to them, or even watching a movie about another person going through the same or similar situation. It can get the very difficult conversation started.

Amazon Prime tip: If you have Amazon Prime, currently this book is listed as an unlimited free read and download on the Kindle app. That's how I read it. But since I liked it so much, I'm going to buy it and keep it in my arsenal of books in the office.

If you believe that you or your child is struggling with a transition such as this one, feel free to contact me and we can set up a consultation session to discuss the specifics of your situation and how to tailor interventions.

 

To purchase or download the book for free, click on the image below:

 

 

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