Category: Compassion

Teaching Kids Empathy

On the heels of two mass shootings this weekend in the U.S., a slew of traumatizing immigration reform acts, and a lifetime of community violence in inner city neighborhoods, I’m left thinking, “where do we begin?” My friend and owner of Long Beach Littles reached out to me for information on how to teach kids empathy. Yes, empathy. That’s where we start. Below is an Instagram graphic I came up with on simple steps you an take to start today. I will also be linking all the books (click on affiliate link to purchase on amazon.com. Read disclosure statement at the bottom of page) that you can use with your kiddos to start talking and teaching about empathy. Be sure to keep visiting this page. As I read more, I’ll keep adding to this list.

Book Recommendations

Empathy and Compassion

“I am Human” – this gem has helped me teach mainly adults about empathy for themselves mainly. It’s great and I couldn’t recommend it more. I have copies at home, and both of my clinical offices. I usually have people pick what they need to hear for themselves the most or what they could say to someone in their life who is currently struggling
On compassion.
On having different dreams that others.
On being YOU.
On being chosen.

Feeling Identification

This will help kids identify their own feeling and what they feel in their bodies.

Special Needs Books

On different abilities
On using a cane to walk.
On Speech Impediment

Immigration

Racism & Discrimination

Homelessness and Poverty

Disclosure: I am an Amazon Affiliate. That means that if you purchase from the links above, I earn a small percentage. I use this compensation to invest in my ever growing library of books focused on healing and mental health awareness.

Self-Compassion on Valentine’s Day

Self-compassion on Valentine’s Day (and everyday, multiple times a day) is going to be important for people who might have some pain associated with relationships and find themselves triggered on this day (pretty much everyone). While the commercialization of the day is widespread, we can’t help but see all messages about love, coupledom, and gifts galore. Which in and of itself, can be triggering. While this day is associatedwith intimate relationships (at least here in the U.S., in Latin America it’s deemed Day of Love and Friendship), I’d like to invite you all to examine the relationship with yourself and practice self-compassion on Valentine’s Day, regardless of your relationship status, plans for the day, and even beyond that. Self-Compassion expert, Dr. Kristin Neff defines self-compassion as encompassing three main parts: self-kindness, the commonality of suffering among all, and mindfulness of emotions without judgment (www.selfcompassion.org). Easy-pleasy, right?

Practicing self-compassion can be really hard especially for people who grew up hearing constant criticism about the things they do or about who they are. Self-compassion might also be hard for those who tend to use rigid thinking, aka black-and-white and all-or-nothing thinking. “Shoulding” on yourselves and others also makes it hard to practice compassion because there is frustrated judgment/expectations.

The way you do self-compassion is by: 1) acknowledge the suffering, which can sound like, “I’m feeling really lonely right now.” 2) Explore with value is being targeted, “connection/love is really important to me. I like being with people who love me and who I feel safe around.” 3) Be kind to yourself (Tip: ifthis is hard to do, think of what you would tell your 5 year old self who is feeling lonely). You can do this by engaging in healthy relationships (key: must be healthy and safe) or by nurturing the relationship with yourself by engaging in things you like to do, being creative, treating yourself with a healthy activity, listening to your body (rest, eat, sleep, exercise, stretch, take prescribed medications, etc.), 4) Lastly, connect with the commonality of suffering and how kind you’ve been to others. Then turn that compassion toward yourself: “Suffering is a normal part of life. If my best friend was suffering, I’d hold her and tell her, ‘I got you.'” Get you. Hold you. Be good to you. Say these nice things to yourself. 

Self-care and self-validation are also crucial any time of the year. Self-care is when you do things that are simply good for you. Whether it’s saying no to others, feeding yourself, resting, taking a long bath, or prioritizing paying your bills, all those things are good for you. Self-validation is when you acknowledge your struggle for what it is and can link how feeling a certain way makes sense for you given your experience. It can sound like, “Yes, it makes sense to feel this.” It’s not praise, it’s more of telling yourself that your emotions are are true and they matter. 

Want to get yourself or a loved one something wellness related? Check out these gift ideas (Disclosure: I am a part of the Amazon Affiliate Program where I earn a small commission from items purchased from these links. Which I in turn use, to buy new books to review and recommend): 

  1. A weighted blanket which is said to help with sleep for people who suffer from anxiety disorders, sensory issues and many other sensitivities. 

2. Gratitude journal 

3. Passion Planner to help focus on goal setting.

4. Journal Focused on Affirming and Self-Care

 

5. “Read me when” Cards: I created these cards for people to use as coping cards or reminders for when times are tough and it’s hard to remember the balanced thoughts you came up with. They are wallet sized and on matted card stock paper. Sometimes it can make all the difference in coping. To order some, feel free to email me at info@sofiamendozalcsw.com. Mention this blog and get 20 for $10. 

 

Want to listen to amazing podcasts that inspire healing, growth, creativity and self-love? Check out these that I’ve been personally obsessed with in the last month: 

Hey, Girl by Alex Elle 

The Art of Money by Bari Tessler 

First Gen Journey by Dr. Elisa Hernandez 

Latinx Therapy Podcast by Adriana Alejandra Alejandre, LMFT 

Rad and Happy Podcast by Tara Nearents

In closing, I wish you all a great day whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or not. I wish you all moments of peace from your suffering. Ultimately, I wish for you to find the right words and actions that contribute to your well-being. 

For more updates on the blog, giveaways, and sources of inspiration, follow me on instagram at @mendingrootstherapy. 

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